Start dating again
Sometimes, changes in circumstances – or changes in people – can be enough for something that worked previously to stop working a few years down the line.
This can be equally hard to deal with, especially if you both feel you did everything you could to save the relationship.
Or maybe you’ve decided to try and meet someone having spent a period of time on your own.
You might be trying to decide how you should go about meeting new people or be worried whether you’re confident enough to start dating again.
At Relate, we commonly see single people for one-to-one counselling.
It’s not necessarily about meeting someone you like immediately – it’s more about broadening your opportunities and giving yourself the chance to rediscover some of the social confidence you may feel you’ve lost.
It can leave you fearful that exactly the same thing could happen again.
The truth, of course, is that it could: but that this isn’t necessarily a reason to never embark on something new.
You may even feel like they actively sabotaged things.
This can leave you bitter, and wary of showing the same level of trust in someone new.
It can be scary getting back into dating after a long break.