Japan dating customs
These are not the kind of thing you learn in your language textbooks.However, there are many people who are successful at dating in Japan.I’m not saying he should adapt himself completely; it’s ultimately his choice.
I came across a blog post by zoomingjapn, a German girl living in Japan, writing about dating in Japan as a foreigner. She writes, ‘It is comparably easy for a western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan’, but ‘it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.’ Her story is interesting in itself but the most interesting part of the article is the huge number of comments gets – 162 comments (or about 30,000 words! A lot of people who commented actually disagree with her.
She seems to be clueless in situations where her charisma doesn’t work as expected.
‘I fell in love with one Japanese boy in my research team.
Many people provided counter-examples in the comments.
My personal experience also tells me that dating in Japan is completely feasible and a lot of my friends seem to be doing OK with dating here.
On my last page, I told him that it’s his story now and that there are still many white pages that can be filled.’ It might be obvious to many people but doing all this to a guy who is not interested (and possibly not used to dealing with girls) is not only ineffective but also counterproductive. If he was experienced in dating, he could have said something like, ‘I know that you are interested in me but I just don’t see you that way.