Dating with a mastectomy
She had no way to find help as a single woman looking for a relationship, wanting to know when and how to tell about her mastectomy and her disease.She wrote the book , a personal account of how she coped with these problems (unfortunately out of print, but worth tracking down in a library or a used book store).Each time she met someone new, Linda had to struggle with when and how to tell, and then how to behave in intimate situations.
They then usually want to know if I “upgraded,” so to speak, at which point I say that I wear about the same bra size I did before my mastectomy.
But in my experience, there have been additional perks (bahaha pun) to the mastectomy and breast reconstruction.
Before my mastectomy, my wardrobe decisions were dictated by an evil overlord known as The Bra.
Gradually she got to a point where she was able to wait till the third or fourth meeting and discuss it without upsetting herself or her companion.
And she learned to protect herself during the initial phase of a sexual encounter by wearing a silky cover-up, gradually working up to full exposure.
Support was the name of the game, and if an outfit couldn’t be worn with a bra, it wouldn’t be worn at all.