Dating when aa
We get so many amazing tools in the program, and if you take them and run with them, then you can be a stellar human and the best version of yourself possible.” But, even she’s been ambivalent.
“There have been times when I’ve told myself I would never date a guy in recovery again, but I've wavered. [The relationships] can be the absolute worst or the best.”That’s because, beyond the threat of relapse, those in recovery can sometimes substitute one addiction for another.
“The pros of dating in the program are that, chances are, the guy won't leave me when he finds out some of the things I have done.
Or how many people I have slept with,” she says, half-jokingly.
One guy told Hannah point blank, “I love fucking you, but you're a transitional girl — not exactly marriage material.”There are no hard and fast rules.
I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?
These experiences don’t by any means amount to the exact same thing, but pain is, at the very least, relatable.
It’s called Al-Anon and if you’re really serious about making your relationship work it’s probably one of the best things you can do for yourself and your partner.
You can tell them, “I’ve been in six rehabs, four psych wards, and I’ve been arrested for assault.” And, they’re like, “Of course you have.” The downside is that they, too, are often a ticking time bomb.
Natasha, an ex-pat who's been on the wagon for 10 years agrees.
Natasha says, “The main con is that it is guaranteed that this person has a ton of hang-ups and emotional baggage.