Dating somebody suffering fear of abandonment
If you believe that the man you are dating has abandonment issues, here are a few things to keep in mind. If you are sure or suspect that your date has abandonment issues, it may be worthwhile to know a bit more about the condition.
At its simplest, a person with abandonment issues has a perpetual fear of being abandoned by those close to him.
These can be small symbolic gestures like wearing a ring given by your boyfriend on your birthday or making it a point to call him every time you leave town on work.
Possessiveness is another trait that you may notice in this guy.
Sometimes when a person may be too emotionally dependent on a relationship, he tends to think of the partner as their “property”.
Since people with abandonment issues live with a fear of being left alone they tend to cling on to a partner tightly.
Sometimes this overwhelming neediness may express itself as wanting excessive reassurance for instance when he asks umpteen numbers of times, “Will you call me”, “Were you thinking of me”, “Would you like to go out with me again”? These people need constant reassurance of love and affection from their partners which sometimes has the unfortunate and opposite effect of driving people away.
This is common in people who are extremely sensitive or emotional are unable to handle breakup or rejection and start having abandonment issues in relationships.