Building godly dating relationships uropedating personals
” As a quick refresher, we can “defraud” our brother or sister in a dating context by showing or encouraging a level of intimacy — either emotionally or physically — that the Bible seems to reserve for marriage and marriage only.
If we act like we’re married before we’ve made that commitment, we’re defrauding (and sinning).
In that context, living with the desires I’ve just described, how likely do you think it is that over the course of two or three or four years — some couples date over most of their college years — you will be able to maintain enough emotional discipline and distance to avoid acting emotionally and relationally “married”?
I’ve spoken to numerous “long-dating” couples, in college and beyond, who other than living together, could do little to intertwine their lives any more than they already are.
I don’t know whether you’ve noticed this, but people involved in a dating relationship tend to get to know each other better over the course of that relationship.
’ There are a few ways to tell if your relationship glorifies God or not.If you’re with someone that brings out the worst in you, that’s not a good sign, no matter how much you think you love each other. A godly relationship allows you to be yourself, to challenge the other person if you feel they’re doing something wrong, and allows you to share your concerns and feelings.Being open and honest with each other helps to build trust.In simple terms, a godly relationship is one that glorifies God and one where God is at the centre.The Bible says, ‘can two walk together except they agree?
If you don’t trust the person you’re with, that’s a big warning signal! These days when there is so much pressure to settle down, get married and do what everyone else is doing, it is wise to stop, and take stock. If the answer is not ‘yes’, what are you going to do about it?